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OK, let’s get this part over with: Are you crazy?
I know, you think it will be really cool if your wife (speaking to men here) has her own bike, so why not just go down to the (fill in the blank) motorcycle dealer and buy her a bike you think would be perfect?
Problem statement: You will buy the wrong bike, she will get hurt, and yes, it will be all your fault!
Let’s go back in time, back to the first motorcycle
you ever rode. Let’s see—you were anywhere from 12 to 26, and it was a small, underpowered yet fun motorcycle that you rode until it blew up. Then you went on to bigger bikes, gradually increasing in power and engine size. Now you have a big-man bike, big cruiser, big sportbike, big sport tourer, yet by some twisted logic, you think that your 45-year-old wife standing all of 5-foot-3, weighing between 100 and 150 pounds, is just going to throw her leg over that 883 Harley-Davidson Sportster you just bought and ride off with you into the sunset. Are you crazy?
A salesman helps a female customer shop for a motorcycle.
Why would you deny her the opportunity to start small and grow into a bigger motorcycle, kind of the way you did? As a Motorcycle Safety Foundation (MSF) Instructor, I have run up against this scenario at least 5,000 times in the past 13 years, sometimes with fatal results, and often with serious, life-threatening injuries. As with all things mechanical, there is a right way and then there is your way of bringing your wife into the sport of motorcycling.
Your way: expense, pain, suffering, marital stress leading potentially to divorce, and your children/grandchildren hating you forever for getting their mother/grandmother hurt or killed.
My way: expense, fun, joy, everyone is happy.
Cliff, a Motorcycle Safety Foundation instructor, speaks from his experiences teaching his wife, Dottie, to ride and from his years teaching motorcycle training classes.
It’s your choice, so let’s try it my way and see what you think. First, do not, do not, do not buy her a motorcycle. Instead, sign up with a good local company or state entity that provides the MSF Basic Rider Course
(BRC). When I say good, I mean woman-friendly. Many guys do not have a clue how to effectively impart motorcycle instruction to women, so talk to women who have taken the BRC and get their take on it.
Your good local provider will supply a training motorcycle for her to use and abuse during the course. After she finishes the course (and if she is still interested), then she needs to get her motorcycle endorsement on her state driver’s license. Next step is to shop at a motorcycle dealership that will let you test ride. You may need to fill out a credit application to prove you have the credit to actually purchase, fill out a waiver to absolve the dealer of any liability and leave a copy of your driver’s license in their possession while on the test ride. If your dealer does not allow test rides, then go somewhere else—there are plenty of dealers in your state who will.
A motorcycle is a very personal choice, which is why you cannot pick one out for her. Does she send you to the store to buy her makeup or unmentionables? Of course not! Why? Because you are a big, bumbling man who would buy the wrong thing. Same reason applies to why you cannot pick out a motorcycle for her. This is also why she must test ride before you buy. Just because her feet can touch the ground does not mean that motorcycle fits her.
Cliff stresses the importance of giving all new riders the opportunity to start small and build up to a bigger bike.
After test riding several different 250cc motorcycles, she will most likely find one that suits her best. You can then buy it and truck or trailer it home.
But wait, you’re not done yet! Of course she’ll need to buy a full-coverage white helmet
; a brightly colored armored jacket
; armored pants
; over-the-ankle riding boots
with good gripping soles and a low heel; and armored gloves. So now you two are ready for your first husband and wife riding experience
on the mean streets.
The rule is, she leads
! I know, you are the man and used to being in charge and leading the way, but in this case, you need to back off! When she leads, she will: go through an intersection when she is ready; make that right turn from a stop when there is no cross traffic so if she screws up and swings wide, she will not become a hood ornament for an oncoming SUV; pull over when she needs a rest; and ride at a speed that does not overwhelm her newly acquired riding skills. If she has a problem, you are right there behind her to block traffic and get her off the road as necessary. If you are in the lead, you can do absolutely nothing but watch in horror in your rearview mirrors while she tries to catch up with you.
Cliff's wife, Dottie, says she's a better rider for having a patient husband who let her learn at her own speed.
It’s now six months since you two have been riding. You must wait and wait and wait until she says, “Honey, I think I am ready for something bigger to ride.” Then off you two go to a dealer who will allow you to test ride again. Sell off the smaller bike, accessorize the newer, bigger bike, and off you two go into the sunset, or Sturgis
, or anywhere you can imagine, in one piece, together. This article was originally published here in December 2010. About the Author:Cliff Brown is an MSF instructor in northern Florida. His story is a culmination of 15 years of running into the situation described.
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